Honesty is the best policy

Growing up, this saying was preached and prattled in Sunday school.

It was one of those sayings that was recited with great enthusiasm

and if one were to start the sentence you could count on someone else finishing it for you.

I feel like as we get older we are taught to take this "policy" with a grain of salt.

 We were almost molded to choose to be honest when it is most convenient; to use only when something was asked of us directly.

Many times our purest dishonesties are an effort to protect the other person's feelings.

What some of us do not realize is that the prevention of hurting some one's feelings; either from a lie of omission or just the distortion of the truth can end up hurting the person more than you would have if you were to just tell the simple truth.

Why is it what we say and what we feel do not match our actions?

As I'm writing this, I read back and It makes me sound like I'm bitter about a situation  and that I have been burned.

But honestly, It is I that have been in the fault. The liar if you will. 

The saying the truth will set you free doesn't come without it's chains or in other words consequences.

and I have learned that when telling the truth sometimes we do not what to bear the chains of  consequences so we distort the truth to make it sound better or less direct.

Not to say that curtesy and kindness does not have it's place it always does when speaking to people

it's just many time we hide behind "niceness" in an effort to distort the truth and to make ourselves look best in the end.

It's a cop out. A way to play the  victim so that when the real truth is shot out no one holds the gun.

A way not to take responsibility of your relationships with people.

childish really, which is sad because "honestly is the best policy" is a concept that we learn a children.

As adults, the concept always seem to be one just learnt.